What I have written about in "I Will Give You Rest" can be summarized in 12 Steps.
The following 12 steps will make much more sense after you have read the online chapters. In each step I have listed the relevant chapters. The chapter numbers are in blue if they are an active link to the text of the chapter. The chapter number is in green if the chapter is not posted online (and available in the blue font or on the left of the page).
The 12 Steps:
1. There is pain and difficulty in my life and relationships (Psalms 6:2-3). (Chapter 2)
2. I came to discover that no matter how hard I tried to overcome these problems, I couldn't do it (Romans 7:15). (Chapter 2).
3. I have come to recognize that these stubborn patterns in my life are the inevitable reaping of the consequences of my sin - bad fruit from a bad root (Mathew 17:17-18). (Chapter 3)
4. My willpower was incapable of overcoming these problems, and I now realize that only the blood of Jesus is able to set me free from this bad fruit (Romans 7:25). (Chapter 3).
5. It is not the fault of those who hurt me that I am now struggling, because what has me in bondage are my own sinful reactions to what they did. I am now determined to forgive others so that I will be forgiven by the Lord Jesus Christ (Luke 6:37). When Jesus takes away my sin and fills that place with His Holy Spirit, a miracle happens, and I become like Him in that place inside me. (Chapter 4 and Chapter 5).
6. I realize that I am not alone on this quest to become like Jesus Christ, because Jesus is always with me as I proceed on this path. This transformation is God's primary goal and desire for my life, and Jesus died to make this possible (Hebrew 12:10). (Chapter 6).
7. I recognize that it is a part of my fallen nature to judge, and that not only do I frequently do this now, but I have a backlog of bitter roots that God wants to remove (Matthew 18:22). (Chapter 4 and Chapter 13).
8. I now know that I must always keep a fearless inventory of the areas of pain and difficulty in my life, and I have given Jesus Christ permission to work in my life to show me the root causes of these patterns (Revelations 3:20). Therefore I make it a constant practice to leave no negative emotion unexamined, and to diligently pray whenever my sin is the cause of my pain. (Chapter 11).
9. I am determined to love myself (Matthew 22:39), the part of me made in the image of God. I diligently work with the Lord to restore this relationship with myself. (Chapter 9 and Chapter 18).
10. I realize that Jesus Christ is my living Lord, and I seek to remove all barriers in me that might inhibit my communing with Him and with myself (Hebrews 10:19-22). (Chapter 9 and Chapter 14).
11. I regularly set aside time to spend with myself and the Lord Jesus, to hear what they are saying to me, and to pray as necessary (Psalms 4:4), because I recognize that this process of being changed into the image of Jesus is a lifelong walk. It is a radically different and new way of living daily with myself and with the Lord Jesus (praying without ceasing, 1 Thessalonians 5:17). (Chapters 15 & 17).
12. It will be great help to me to find at least one other person who is willing to faithfully walk with me on my journey of healing (James 5:16). (Chapters 14 & 15).
I would recommend that you buy the book so that you can have it constantly by your side as a tool to help you walk out your new life in Jesus.